Can we get real for a second? Do you mind if you do? Being a parent is the most rewarding title any person can ever be blessed with. I think we can all agree on that. However, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t times of struggle and sadness. In fact, there are times of struggle and sadness in every season of life, whether you are married with kids living the “American Dream”, a single woman, a young child, a teenager, a single man, or a single parent. The Bible promises that in this life we will have struggles.
The Bible says, “In this world, you will have trouble, but take heart, I have overcome the world.”
Wow, that verse is powerful. No matter what we face in this world we will get through to the other side with the Heavenly Father guiding us the whole way. Through the roughest valleys of life all the way to the highest mountaintops.
Do you ever feel like there is a disconnect between knowing that God is with us and feeling His presence in our hearts? So where does the disconnect take place? Do you have ideas on where? For me, I feel like when I let the circumstances of my life tackle my faith is when a disconnect starts. Circumstances like a health issue, struggling marriage, difficult financial issues, loss of a loved one or friend, or even loss of a job. You name it this world can dish it out. Am I right?
My story about facing anxiety started about the same time I got married to my husband. Five years later, I still struggle. Some days are better than others.
There are many steps I have taken to battle my anxiety.
First and foremost, I pray about it to my Heavenly Father because He knows already. There is no keeping secrets from God. He knows everything. He knows all of my days before one even came to pass. I find comfort in His presence and His Holy Word. I spend a lot of time in the book of Psalms for encouragement.
Second, I talk about it. Past experience has shown me that when I hold it in the anxiety only gets worse. I don’t have to face my anxiety alone and neither do you. I talk to my husband, sisters and close friends. Who do you turn to when you need to vent?
Eliminating the Negative Stigma
I feel like even in this progressive culture there is still a negative stigma when it comes to facing anxiety. I have had to learn that struggling with anxiety does not mean I am weak. The same goes for you. If you struggle with anxiety take comfort in knowing that you are not a weak person. It’s okay to not be okay. I feel like more people who struggle with anxiety so we can kick down the negative views on those who do struggle. This is not easy to be open about but I feel it is necessary so that society sees that it really is okay to not be okay.
Seek Professional Help
Third, I spend time talking to a counselor that I trust. To reach out to others (i.e. friends, family, professionals) shows strength in a person. For me, this was the hardest step but an extremely important one. This step forced me to come face to face with the monster that was created inside my head and heart called anxiety. It made it real. Talking to a counselor helps me gain perspective that might have been or is hidden by darkness.
Learn About Anxiety
I educate myself on the issue. I’m committed to continuing the fight and overcome struggles in life. I’m a pretty stubborn person. Just ask my hubby… hehehe. I know that’s possible to live a fulfilled life because I have God guiding me through every twist and every turn. Recently, I was asked what song would be my theme song. My answer was easy. Without a doubt, my answer was a mixup between Mandisa’s Overcomer and Rachel Platten’s Fight Song. These songs have been a constant source of encouragement to me through the years. What is your theme song? Tell me in the comment section below.
To educate and encourage myself I read books and listen to podcasts with a Christian perspective on anxiety. Recently I was sitting in church and had a couple moments when God just kind of slaps me with a “Hey, this is for you.” There were a couple of messages that I would love to pass along to you from Louie Giglio and Mark Driscoll. I hope that these messages will encourage you.
And finally, I do practical things to help myself overcome the anxious feelings. Some things I do are listed below.
- Try to eat a well-balanced diet
- I do not drink alcohol
- Exercise regularly
- I keep a regular sleep routine
- I claim my bedroom as a kid-free zone. It is where I go to relax
- Daily vitamins
- Long, hot bath or an hour of alone time (i.e. instead of cleaning during nap time just rest and recharge)
- Journaling or blogging
If you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety and would like to reach out to talk to someone for support text CONNECT to 741741 to reach the crisis text hotline. It’s very important to know the signs of anxiety to help those around us.
If you are struggling with anxiety or have in the past I would love to hear your story and pray for you. To share your story or prayer request you can contact me below.