How to stop shaming yourself? You are Enough!

Do you ever have those moments when you feel like the worst mom ever? Those moments have crept up on me more often recently. And to say it has been a battle overcoming those thoughts is a definite understatement.

Anyone else with me on this?

This summer has been a challenge for my boys who are both going to be in Kindergarten this fall. It has been hard getting used to a new school with growing expectations. Anytime there was an issue I would get a call. Every single time. For me, this did not settle well. I took it to heart. I put myself down and was definitely critical of my own parenting. Always asking myself, “What am I doing wrong? Why are they (the boys) not excelling like I thought they would?”

I am going, to be honest with you. I have not been in the best headspace this summer at all. I haven’t always focused on the right things. I have allowed my frustrations to get the best of me. I stretched myself to thin at times. I put myself on the backburner a little bit too much this summer. I allowed the negative to overpower the positive in my mind. I didn’t let go and let God. I was shaming myself.

The Negative Overpowered the Positive

As I said earlier, I let the negative overpower the positive. Does that happen to you a lot? It’s such an easy thing to do. It’s like your somehow blind to the wonderful things happening around you. I definitely had a case of this creep up on me this summer. I saw the boys not excelling at school overall instead of seeing the small battles being won on the way to prospering at school. I saw a power struggle instead of a lack of communication. I saw a long-fought battle with potty training instead of the potty training victories that are bringing my son to the winner’s circle (we are almost completely potty trained. WHOOP. WHOOP.) I saw my child being labeled by teachers instead of what I know my son to be and more importantly how God sees my son.

“Rejoice in the Lord always. Again, I say Rejoice.”

“This is the day the Lord has made I will rejoice and be glad in it”

Search for the joy in every day. 

Guard Your Heart

It’s so easy to let this fallen world inside your head and deceive your thoughts. This is how we become ourselves worst critics. It doesn’t matter who you are, we all into this cycle of shaming ourselves for whatever reason. When we start seeing our life as the world sees it and stop seeing our lives through the eyes of Jesus that’s when we fall off course. That very moment is when we question if we are not good enough? I’m here to tell you, you are enough. Guard your heart always because the Devil is sneaky.

God’s the Master of the Plan

God has an awesome plan for your life and He will use you to do something unique. For example, there is a reason I am the mom to my three children and not the other mom down the street. God knew exactly what he was doing when he handpicked our family to be a unit.

5 Ways to Stop Shaming Yourself

  1. Stay true and Close to God- Do not give in to Satan’s lies. Put on the armor of God daily.
  2. Have a supportive group of people (I.e. spouse, church, small group, friends)
  3. Look for the positive
  4. Make yourself a priority- (i.e. write a blog, have a hobby, go to the gym, have that coffee with a friend)
  5. Show yourself grace in all areas of life- stop living life by a checklist or countdowns but instead resolve to be present in the day that you have been given. For example, it’s ok to play with your kiddos. Your house doesn’t have to be perfect.

The Bible says the Devil comes to seek, kill, and destroy. Do not give him that chance.

The Struggle is REAL. But So is OUR GOD.

We all struggle. We all have lemons. And we all will until our final breath on Earth because we live in a fallen world. But guess what? God is bigger than the mountains you face. When you’re in a struggle of mind and you need help to see God at work ask God to show you how he sees you. Ask God to show you how He is working in your life. Let God fight your battles.

The Bible says to cast all your cares on Him for He cares for you.

Let Go and Let God!